i work with couples
to design ceremonies that reflect
their experiences, identities & values.

 
 

What makes a wedding unique?
You, what’s important to you,
and how you share it with the people surrounding you
in that particular time and place.
Let’s identify customs or design practices that really reflect your values—
whether you are secular, religious, interfaith, intercultural, LGBTQ+,
(or just don’t want a cookie-cutter ceremony that perpetuates misogynistic, heteronormative, and elitist values)—
and go beyond what the traditional wedding industry offers.

Let’s connect.

  • Design a ceremony that looks, sounds, and feels like you, your experiences, your values, and your identities

  • Be guided & supported in the process of designing your ceremony

  • Feel heard, understood, and known in creating customized rituals

  • Know that you were unconstrained by “tradition” or “convention” in creating the wedding you envisioned

“The whole experience exceeded all of our expectations and came together with what appeared to be magic but in actuality reflects abundant empathy, wisdom, skill, and grace.  Thank you so much!”

I Love Working With:

  • Couples getting married who want a unique ceremony - no cookie-cutter performances.

  • Intercultural couples who want to mindfully merge cultural practices without slipping into cafeteria-style ceremony or risking cultural (mis)appropriation.

  • Interreligious couples who want to mindfully merge religious practices without slipping into cafeteria-style ceremony or risking theological conflict.

  • Non-religious couples who want to create an engaging ceremony that reflects their values and experiences and that doesn’t just look like every wedding on TV.

  • LGBTQ+ couples and other couples whose sexual or relationship status excludes them from wedding ceremonies.

  • Couples who don’t have a cultural or religious tradition that they want to draw on.

“When we don’t examine the deeper assumptions behind why we gather, we end up skipping to quickly to replicating old, staid formats of gathering. And we forgo the possibility of creating something memorable, even transformative.”

— Priya Parker, The Art of Gathering

Each couple deserves a ceremony that reflects their values, experiences, and identities without compromise or apology.

The wedding industry promotes traditions that don’t always align with a couple’s experiences, identities, and values, and wedding planners, vendors, and officiants don’t always consider whether those practices reflect your relationship, whether they promote your values, whether they include everyone.

Like many couples, you might fear having to compromise: either hire someone who doesn't understand how to design a ceremony that authentically looks and feels like you, or try to do it all yourself. 

I’m here to change that.

What People Are Saying

“Bill was a thoughtful guide at our ceremony, leading our friends and family as active participants in our vows and commitment. He facilitates with a beautiful and serene energy that invites everyone to open their hearts to the experience.”

“Bill was absolutely AMAZING to work with! He helped us design a fully customized and unique ceremony, and put in so much time and effort on our behalf to make it something that was fully us, and absolutely beautiful. He listened to us, got to know us, and I absolutely feel like we went with the right person! Everything was so organized, professional, and yet still entirely heartfelt. You can tell how important it is to Bill to make a truly memorable ceremony, and he succeeded!”

“Everything was so great and we really appreciate how you brought it together so much.  You really helped make it one of the best days of my life.  Thank you!”

“Bill has a magnetically peaceful and warm energy about him; we were immediately at ease from the moment we had our first Zoom call. In just over a month, he crafted our ceremony and vows into something truly beautiful- even though it was going to be just us and our witnesses, he treated our wedding with so much care and detail, and not once made our elopement feel small or diminished.”

Through your wedding, you not only offer the people around you a taste of the world you want to live in - you invite them to help make it a reality.

You can create that experience and ensure that every aspect of your ceremony reflects the world you want to build.

I’d be honored to guide the way.

Services Offered

Ceremony Design

I’ll collaborate with you to design all aspects of your ceremony, whether we’re tailoring my simple ceremony or creating a ritual from scratch. We’ll

explore traditions and innovations to discern what reflects your experiences, identities, and values.

OFFICIATing

I’ll officiate, or witness a wedding as the official representative of the state. If you’ve invited friends or family members to officiate, I’ll coach them to prepare for the ceremony.

Component DesigN

I’ll help you identify or develop particular components for your ceremony, including vows, readings, and blessings.

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Hello, I’m Bill, your Ritual Designer and Facilitator. I collaborate with couples to design unique ceremonies that are rooted in the experiences that shape their relationship. 

Early on as an officiant, I was deeply bothered by the heteronormative, gendered, and classist values perpetuated by the wedding industry, so I tried to effect a shift toward more authentic and more inclusive practices anywhere I could. When it came time for my own wedding, I found out how powerful experiencing a ceremony that reflected us and the world we want to shape, one that didn’t force us to compromise or assimilate, could be. I want other couples to have that experience, too. 

A wedding marks a change in your lives, but it’s also an opportunity to change the world. You don’t have to use traditional or popular customs - you can design an experience that truly reflects you. When I work with a couple, I start with your experiences, your values, your identities to help you identify practices that are meaningful to you and that will invite the friends and family who surround you to help build a world that celebrates and reflects everything you are. We’ll create an experience that is beautiful, joyful, and impactful. It will change your friends’ perceptions of what a wedding - and the world - can be. 

3-Steps To Get Started:

  • 1. Schedule a 30-minute call! (Free)

  • 2. Explore the possibilities

  • 3. Bring the wedding you envision to life

Schedule Now

You don’t have to do the work of creating your ceremony alone or be confined by only the ideas of what the wedding industry supplies you with.

With my support, we can bring the wedding you envision to life.